Posts Tagged ‘Spirituality’

Don’t Judge Me

Posted: June 18, 2012 in Religion, Tolerance
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Sometimes you need to use the “unfriend” button on Facebook.  Sometimes, it’s with family.

That’s what I felt I needed to do this morning.  Why?  They believe it is their job to judge me, or anyone who isn’t in their particular prayer circle jerk.  That is, judge my christian or non-christian beliefs.  Condemn me to HELL.  They so firmly believe that only their viewpoint is correct and all the rest of us are heathens whose souls will burn in an eternal fire.

First of all, even though we are related, we have never met.  So basically, we don’t know each other.  They do not know how many times I have extended my hand to help others.  They have no idea of the lengths I will go through to offer what I can to help someone out.  If I have the resources, and sometimes not, I will help out.  I don’t care if you are a Catholic, Jew, Muslim or atheist.  I will not judge someone who believes differently than me, but I will help when I can.

Second, this all started because of a simple reply to their post:  “There is not one single more loving act than to warn a person of eternal hell.”  I replied “actually I’m OK with not being warned.”  It got worse from there.

It was the following post though that finally made me decide to just eliminate these people from my life.  I mean I already have enough stress without worrying about my eternal damnation.

“Jesus spoke 3x more about hell than heaven you should read your Bible more. 
Obviously you do not have the spirit of God, you want to keep your sin and expect Jesus to accept you.
I’m afraid you and George wont be seeing me in hell although I AM sure you will end up there unless you repent.
You obviously are worshiping a false God a Jesus you have made up in your own mind. 
You have no fear of God but see him as a limp wristed pot smoking tree hugging hippy child.
You call yourself a ‘christian’ but by your statements you condemn yourself as the furthest thing from one.
“But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear Him, which after He hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear Him.” – Luke 12:5

Finally, it was additional posts in this string of like-minded individuals in their condemnation of me and also my Catholic Faith, (not that I’m a strong practicing one) that made me decide I just don’t need people like this in my life.

So they can be free to practice what they believe.  They’ll just have one less person to preach to from their pulpit.


“It’s not the life you choose Dad, it’s the life you live”.

The line is from the movie “The Way” which takes Martin Sheen and other Pilgrims on a Journey through The Camino de Santiago, also known as The Way of St James.  People from all over the world take this 500 mile pilgrimage every year for whatever personal reasons they have, whether spiritual or just a need to change a life direction.  In this case, Martin Sheen finishes the Pilgrimage his son began, but perished on the trail his first day.  He makes the decision to finish the trip his son began while in St Jean Pied de Port, France to pick up his sons remains, then takes his ashes with him and spreads them along the way.

“It’s not the life you choose, it’s the life you live”.

Yet the life we live is predicated on the choices we are given, so we choose.  We make a choice as to which path to travel.  We make the choices we make because it provides the best way to fulfillment.  It’s the best choice to provide for family, self and spirituality.  So by making choices offered are we then not living life?  Do we need to journey abroad and visit ruins and walk on cobblestone streets and drink coffee with the locals in order to live life?  Of course not.

We can have our mundane careers and jobs but outside of that we can live.  We can make things happen each day that we are alive.  Instead of ending our day and reclining in our favorite chair, we can:

Walk to the end of the driveway and meet our neighbors.  Get to know who they are.

Travel to the other side of town taking a different route and possibly discovering something new.

Spend more time with friends.

Enjoy more family time together and share stories that can be passed from generation to generation.

Take that stroll through the park we’ve always talked about.

Rekindle a friendship that we thought was lost.

Take that golf lesson, cooking lesson, or learn to scrapbook or try just about anything you’ve always wanted to try.

Stop letting those vacation days pile up and use them.  Whether it’s to take that once in a lifetime trip, or to just sit in the back yard and drink a cold beer or hot cup of coffee.

Listen to the laughter.

Take a moment to remember a loved one who is gone, and smile.

So while we have the life we chose, if we “live” the life we have, we shouldn’t have any regrets.